The Unintended Consequences of Plasticising Sex

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We have entered an era in our existence that plastics seemingly dominated the way people are intimate. Most have needs, it’s our human nature. Of course, some may not, and there is nothing wrong with that. But, for those who do have needs, the way of satisfying those needs has become artificial. An example that comes to mind is the one child policy that dominated mainland China’s families for decades and led to the rise of the sex doll industry.

The policy came into effect during the 1970s in China in an effort to curb the booming population. The policy was further ratified and tailored in 1980 with the Government standardising the policy. The results of this policy saw the birth rate declining after 1980. Further, families preferred having sons over daughters. The extent to which women would go to have a son were infanticide or abortions. Obviously this paints a fairly miserable picture and one that caused there to be a disbalance in society between men and women. The disproportion leads to there being 3 to 4 per cent more men than women.

If I were a young man in China, I could imagine it being really difficult to find a women and fulfil my parents’ goals of having family and making a life for myself. It could imagine it being terribly difficult to live if I couldn’t find myself a woman with whom I’d make a family. Well, the same could be said for other Chinese males who fall into the same boat.

Now, the solution to this problem is that we have created and manufactured sex dolls. Of course, the doll suits the immediate need. It also provides some kind of way for a person to feel satisfied. Satisfaction for a short moment with a lasting skewed vision of sex and intimacy, but also women.

The beauty of the sex doll is that it can be customised in any which way a person desires. Imagine having the ideal woman with no changes, no tiredness, and the drive to go at any time? It would sound appealing for some. The problem that comes with that is that it sets an unreasonable expectation regarding a woman.

If someone become accustomed to using a sex doll, then it may lead them to believe that a woman should behave like a doll. They should wear something sexy and appealing all the time with make-up or whatever the desired fantasy. That seems to degrade the standing of women and usher in a new type of chauvinism.

A sex doll not only converts a woman to a plastic doll, but it also can make the owner entitled and feel superior. Let’s face it for a moment — the doll doesn’t talk back and one could do whatever they want to do with it. It doesn’t say no, it doesn’t feel, but it does what you want it to do.

The obvious outcome is that it could skew the view. Now, of course, this is not to say that a sex doll user becomes a rapist. I think that would be a little far to make that assertion, but it could certainly lead to some form of undesired sexual advances.

We have lost our ability and understanding of the basics associated with connecting with a human. The existence of a doll has taken that simple, precious ability away from us. We no longer have the opportunity to assoicate together, since we can go to the shop and buy a doll.

I see it as new form of laziness too. Instead of making an effort to get to know someone, we instead take the cop out way and get a doll. I’m not saying everyone does that. Nonetheless, the opportunity is there. It’s available to anyone willing to pay.

We have to ask ourselves if we are willing to give up the basic human nature for manufactured intimacy. Or, will we go back to basics and hold on to what’s dear to us?

The one child policy has perhaps provided an opportunity for businesses and for those businesses to provide others with an outlet. At the same time, those businesses have also changed the way intimacy and the women may be viewed as a plastic being that is bendable, customisable, and does whatever its owner says.

We need to be careful that we are not becoming lazy or socially inept to interact with others. We should safeguard one aspect of humanity that remains the very essence of our existence. If not, then we risk to lose our identity and ways of connecting with other humans.

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