Adulting’s unprecedented challenges

Adam E. Badenhorst
3 min readMay 4, 2019
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I had to take a step back from both Medium and writing generally. It sounds somewhat silly — I pride myself on writing and working towards my goals. But, the truth of the matter is that I was too busy. It has become a nearly unmanageable period. The truth is that life can consume us.

I have learnt in a short period that it wasn’t something that I was ready to handle. The majority of the events taking place ushered in new experiences that were totally out of my control. It was the first time in my life that I’ve learned what it means to be an adult. And, more importantly, adulting brings with it experiences and challenges for which we cannot prepare ourselves.

Here’s what I mean:

I was in a situation where someone chose to leave, and I was asked to take over their portfolio. At the same time, I had some personal issues in my family that required urgent attention. And, I have some other business topics that I managed at the same time. As a result, I am tired and hungover on life. I never thought that I could feel hungover as if I was out the previous night knocking a few down.

What about you? Has this ever happened to you?

Now, I learned that it’s the way life is. Sure, I am not an old man, but I feel like it sometimes. I’ve learned that we have to go with the flow no matter what. I know that sounds cliché. And, to some extent it is, but not really. The alternative of “work-life balance” is another option. Only, it doesn’t exist. It’s a fantasy and illusion that we put ourselves into, and that’s why I say that adulting is tiring — there is no happy medium (forgive the pun).

So, the net-net result is that we have to adapt to the situation and accept that we can’t achieve everything all the time. Have you ever felt that sense of helplessness?

That’s right; we have to accept and do what we can. That doesn’t mean that you can’t work hard, or sell more, or whatever it is that you do. But, you reach a point where you are no longer effective and efficient, and it doesn’t make sense. It’s not entirely burn-out, but it’s very close to it.

In the end, we have to find our limits and accept certain limitations that may be present whether they are in your control or not. And, most importantly, it’s worth making time to keep to your hobbies or things that you like to do. I learned by staying away from writing that I missed out which means it wasn’t the best choice. Instead, find a balance to fit in everything you want to do. Don’t let adulting win you; you win adulting.



Adam E. Badenhorst

Enterpreneur. IT & Heritage Consultant disrupting industries. AI, blockchain, SaaS, ERP.